I had the perfect picture of him in my mind. I prayed and praised God in advance for him. I now pursue my purpose with him. His name is Danny, my dream manifested. Since we are celebrating the season of love, I want to share with you my journey from Ms. to Mrs. that was full of treats and trials but in the end, God blessed me to dare to dream, fulfilled my destiny and gave me double for my trouble.
Love Lost
I was courting a guy and eventually got engaged. We got down to our last counseling session and he declared that he was not willing to serve God. This was alarming to me because my Lord was everything to me. I thought, “How can two walk together if they do not agree?” (Amos 3:3). This perfect relationship was missing the major link, Jesus. I called the wedding off and ended the relationship. People couldn’t believe I ended my relationship over this one thing, but they failed to realize this one thing was my everything.
The breakup was devastating. I didn’t know if I would ever find love again, but I was willing to risk it all for my Lord. I wiped my tears one evening and promised myself my mourning was over. I prayed, “Lord I did this for you, now do this for me: give me double for my trouble.”
Love Without a Limit
I met Danny through a mutual friend. He was her husband’s best friend who, at the time, was going through a distressing divorce vowing to never to marry again. Our friend knew after he was done healing, he would be ready for love again. She knew I was single and ready to meet my mate. Since Danny started attending our church, I also had my eye on him but never made a move. He approached me one day and, after a few encounters, we went out for coffee. Fast forward eleven years from that day, we are still having conversations over coffee.
We dated exactly for one year and got married. The first couple of years was saturated with struggles because of my insecurities. With God’s grace, we were able to conquer those shady situations that I created in my head and our bond became stronger. The biggest blessing in our marriage is communication. We walk in wedded bliss because God is at the center of our lives. We make it a point to together pray, study the Bible, and serve in ministry as a unit. Jesus is the key part of the three-cord braid of our marriage that is not easily broken (Ecclesiastes 4:12).
We are friends first. We also date often and a good number of our dates are “date night in.” These are my favorites! We usually eat and play our made-up game of “name that song.” Is our marriage perfect? Absolutely not but we serve the perfect one, Jesus. Knowing that gives us the consolation that come what may, we can conquer anything and are always victorious.
Looking for Love – Your Camel is Coming
One of my favorite Biblical stories is when Abraham sent his servant to find a wife for his son, Isaac, with specific instructions, confidence that the angels will go before him, and ten camels loaded with gifts (Genesis 24). His servant was successful because he first prayed for victory. The servant didn’t even get a chance to finish his prayer before God had Rebekah positioned and coming to encounter the servant. While he was still praying, God answered his prayer and Rebekah showed up. Both parties were blessed when they saw the camels coming. Rebekah and her family received gifts that the camels carried, and Isaac saw the camels coming and went out to meet them when the servant came back with Rebekah.
Your camel is coming. In the meantime:
- Write the vision of your desired mate including negotiable and non-negotiable items.
- Give all of your time to God in the meantime.
- Be who you want to attract.
- Be ready and occupy yourself in the meantime.
- Let God bring you your mate.
- Wait on the promise of God and never settle.
Love at Last - D.R.E.A.M.
Delight yourself in the Lord and He will give you the desires of your heart (Psalm 37:4). God gave me double for my trouble and exceeded my dream for my mate. Taking matters into your own hands only delays the process. I created the acronym, D.R.E.A.M., to encourage singles to dream and believe God for their mate because, “Dreams Really Eventually Appear Manifested.” Don’t grow weary in well doing for in due season you will reap if you faint not (Galatians 6:9). Dare to D.R.E.A.M. because Dreams Really Eventually Appear Manifested.
